Don't be a Desperate Debbie!

I decided to start giving some advice on here just cuz like oh.. idk I am kind of running out of things to blog about and I kind of just thought about this topic about two days ago because I totally realize how many times I have fucked up my chances with a few guys that I REALLY liked in the past. It is NEVER a good thing to throw yourself on a guy EVER and there is no quicker way to get blocked from facebook, twitter, and even get a restraining order put on you then by being needy. I will admit I have a problem with being clingy and it's not something I am proud of. There are many reasons behind that. Main reason is because I had my heart broken really badly in the past by someone I really cared about and thought that I was eventually going to marry one day. When he dumped me my whole world came crashing down and I never fully recovered from that. Everytime I like a guy I go out of my way to try to make him like me back but I tend to forget that you simply can not MAKE someone like you. They are either going to like you or not. You can do things to make yourself more pleasant and attractive to guys but when it comes down to it it's gonna be totally up to them to decide weather or not they like your personality. For the most part I try to be as sweet and pleasant as possible when I am around a guy that I really like. I try not to be too touchy feely but that is something I have a major problem with. I like to hug on guys alot and be affectionate with them. The reason for that is because when I was a child I never really was shown much affection from my mother or my first step father and now I guess I am just trying to make up for that by seeking affection from guys. Anyways truth be told every girl that tends to be clingy or needy has their reasons behind why they are like that. The key is to control it. Until here recently I never really tried to control that aspect of myself but one day I woke up and took a look at myself in the mirror and thought "my god I am pathetic!" I am now starting to try to control my greatest downfall about my personality and I decided to take the liberty to write down all the ways that girls (including myself) fuck things up and ruin their chances with the guy that they like. Here we go.....

• THE OVER TEXTER: THIS IS THE BIGGEST FUCK UP YOU CAN MAKE! This fuck up is not only limited to phone texts either, it also applies to girls who constantly call, email. twitter @, fb message and skype message their crush. There is nothing more annoying or irritating then to constantly have your phone pinging because someone won't stop messaging you. Usually girls go ape shit when a guy does not text them back right away so they start to send messages over and over and over again and those messages tend to say things like "whats up?" or "are you mad at me?" or "you don't think I am crazy do you?" YES HE THINKS YOU ARE CRAZY! YOU ARE TEXTING HIM EVERY 20 MINUTES AND TRYING TO CONTACT HIM ON EVERY SINGLE SOCIAL NETWORKING SITE THAT HE HAS AN ACCOUNT ON AND YOU THINK THAT HE POSSIBLY DOES NOT THINK YOU ARE CRAZY?!" This is the best way to not only get blocked but also possibly get a restraining order placed on you. If you text a guy one time and he does not answer back there are prolly a few good reasons for that, maybe he is at work, maybe he is at dinner with his parents, maybe he is at a party with his friends , maybe his phone is dead there are a multitude of reasons as to why. If you text a guy and he does not text back right away don't freak out! If he never responds then just assume that he is not interested and move on. You don't want to prove to him that you are crazy by constantly texting him. Not only does it ruin your chances with him it could possibly ruin your chances with other guys too because you are gonna end up building this reputation as "that needy chick".

• DO NOT TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM: Ok like I will admit I like to tell guys that I love them but when I say it I don't mean it. whoops that sounded bad! Let me rephrase that, when I flirt around with guys online or (very rarely) in REAL life, I usually tell them that I love them but I do not actually mean love love as in "omg I have known you for 5 years now and I want to marry you and have kids"I mean it in a cute way as in like I like them a lot. But SOME girls tell guys they love them and they actually mean it, even after only knowing them for a few days! Nothing creeps a guy out more I think then hearing those words because they prolly think that you are trying to rush them into being committed to you. I mean not just that but let's be honest guys and girls a like both prolly get really creeped out when someone tells them that they love them and they hardly even know them.

CREEPER!

• DO NOT ADD HIM ON ANY SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES UNTIL AFTER YOU GUYS ARE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!!: This is another no no and should be avoided at all costs. Reasons are numerous as to why but the main reason is because of jealousy.  If you add a guy that you have a crush on on Fb or Twitter chances are you are going to see a few things that are going to upset you, maybe he has a lot of girls that flirt with him online, maybe he is very social and goes to a lot of parties and has pictures taken with a lot of pretty girls, maybe he is in an open relationship with someone, any of these things can trigger mass amounts of jealousy and can totally destroy your ego and your confidence! Also this goes hand in hand with the over texting rule. If he is on your facebook list or twitter you are going to be even more tempted to over contact him. Everytime you see him on facebook chat you are gonna want to have a convo with him and OF COURSE if it appears that he is online and he is not responding to you right away you are going to think that he is avoiding you so you are gonna end up sending him tons of messages till you get a response, and god forbid if you do not get a response because it's gonna make you cry and all of that. There are many reasons as to why he is not talking back, hell maybe he was not even online to begin with and he just forgot to log out! If he is on twitter you are prolly gonna end up @ing him about 20 times a day and every time you see him talking to another girl you are gonna get angry. Having your crush on you social networking site is just not worth it. Sure you can still lurk his page if it is public but you are less likely to do that I think, too much work.

• FIND SOMETHING ELSE TO OCCUPY YOUR TIME WITH OR YOU ARE GONNA LOOK LIKE A DESPERATE LOSER WITH TOO MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS! Do not obsess over your crush. This may be very hard to do for some girls but it is a very very critical mistake. If all you do all day long is look at his pictures on facebook, text him, think about him, talk about him to your friends constantly it's gonna make you seem like a big ol case of cray cray. I mean we all have seen this ongoing joke in hey arnold right? (see below picture) The segment that is shown every once in a while when Helga goes to her closet to worship Arnold in front of that creepy ass shrine she made for him. It's cute to be a little infatuated with the guy you like but like I said when he is all you think about and all you talk about people are going to think you are nuts, he is going to think you are nuts, and you are prolly gonna end up in a psych ward if your obsession keeps up. Try to focus on other things and not think about him to much. Pick up a hobby or study or get a second job or something. OCCUPY YOUR THOUGHTS WITH OTHER THINGS! Just keep in mind that no guy has ever liked a girl back because she kept thinking about him all day long. It's creepy, it's weird and not to mention... PATHETIC! 

Well ok that is all the advice I have on this topic.. talking from both experience and observations that I have made over the years of others behaviors this is just about the best advice I can give to anyone who is gaga over someone and does not want to come off as a creep. Feel Free to add on to the list if you want. What kinds of things creep you out? Have you ever been called a creep? Do you have a few creeps after you? Do you like that song by Radiohead called Creep? -XOXO